The Worthy Walk: The Godly Family

I. The role of the wife in a godly family is defined (Ephesians 5:22-24).

A. Wives are to submit to their husbands.

1. The Greek term is hupotasso.

a. It is a compound term of “under” and “appoint”
b. It is a military term describing the arrangement of troops under a commander.

2. The biblical use of the term is helpful.

a. Jesus was “subject” to his parents (Luke 2:51)
b. Devils were “subject” to the disciples (Luke 10:17)
c. Citizens are to be “subject’ to higher authority (Romans 13:1)

3. The parallel passages are also instructive.

a. Colossians 3:18 adds that submission is “fit in the Lord”
1) The Greek word is aneko.
2) The basic meaning is “duty” or “requirement”
b. 1 Peter 3:1-6 amplifies the character of submission
1) “Chaste” behavior is expected
2) “Meek and quiet spirit” is valued
3) Deferential obedience is exemplified by Sarah

B. Wives are to model the relationship between the Lord and the Church.

1. “Even as” Christ is the Head (authority over) the Church.

a. Ephesians 1:22 – God the Father delegated authority to the Lord Jesus.
b. Colossians 1:18 – Christ has “preeminence” (first place)
c. Wives are to recognize that authority in their husbands

2. “Even as” the church is subject unto Christ”

a. “So” wives are to exemplify that model
b. Authority is delegated: Submission is voluntary.

C. Wives are to “reverence” their husbands (Ephesians 5:33)

1. The Greek word is phobos – “fear”’

2. 2 Corinthians 7:1 – we are to perfect holiness “in the fear of God.”

3. Philippians 2:12 – we are to work out our salvation “in fear and trembling”

II. The role of the husband in a godly family is defined (Ephesians 5:25-31).

A. He is to demonstrate a sacrificial love.

1. Just as Christ loved the Church.

a. That love is self-sacrificing and total (Philippians 2:7-8)
b. That love was redemptive and corrective (Titus 2:14)

2. Just as Christ sought to sanctify and cleanse.

a. Jesus used the Truth of the Word to sanctify (John 17:17)
b. Jesus taught confession for cleansing (1 John 1:7-9)

3. Just as Christ kept the “glorious” end in mind.

a. “Perfection” was in mind (Colossians 1:22, 28)
b. “The Lamb’s wife” is the ultimate model (Revelation 19:7-8)

B. He is to love his wife as he loves his own body.

1. He is to care for his wife as he would care for his own body

2. He is to “nourish” and “cherish” is wife (1 Thessalonians 2:7-11)

3. He is to view his wife as his own “flesh and bones”

a. This is a reference to Genesis 2:21-15
b. This is a direct quotation from the Septuagint.

C. He is to leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife.

1. The verbs are active and continuous.

2. The words insist on “forsaking” the birth family.

3. The words describe being “stuck together” in the new family.

D. He is not to anger his children (Ephesians 6:4)

1. They are to be “brought up” (cherished).

2. They must be “nourished”

a. The Greek term is “disciplined”
b. Hebrews 12:5-11 gives a good illustration.

3. They must be “admonished”

a. The Greek term means “put the mind down”
b. The Old Testament is written for that purpose (1 Corinthians 10:11)

III. The role of the children in a godly family is defined (Ephesians 6:1-3).

A. Children must obey their parents.

1. This is a focus on the 5th Commandment (Exodus 20:12)

2. This obedience is to be “in the Lord.”

a. Used to identify those who are saved (1 Corinthians 7:22)
b. Used to identify godly behavior (1 Corinthians 15:58).

3. This obedience is “right” (just)

a. John 7:24 – “judge” righteous “judgment”
b. Romans 7:12 – the commandments are “just”

B. Children must honor their parents

1. This is a direct quote to “value” our parents (Exodus 20:12)

2. This extends well beyond childhood (1 Timothy 5:8)

3. This extends the promise of a rewarded and long life.

a. “Well done” good and faithful servant (Matthew 25:33)
b. “Long life” comes in part from learning from the wisdom of our parents (Proverbs 3:1-4)

Hebrews 13:20-21 -- Now the God of peace, that brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great shepherd of the sheep, through the blood of the everlasting covenant, make you perfect in every good work to do his will, working in you that which is well pleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ; to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.

Series: 
Identity
Lesson: 
#12
Book: 
Ephesians
Verses: 
5:22-6:4

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