Honor thy Father and Mother

I. The Fifth Commandment is a positive requirement.

A. We are to honor our Father and Mother.

1. The words for honor need comparison.

a. Many of the words carry the meaning of "value'' or "riches."
b. Some of the words carry the idea of "beauty it or "grandeur."

2. The word used in Exodus 20:12 is somewhat different.

a. It is the Hebrew word KABED.
b. It means "to be heavy" and is translated in a wide variety of ways, both positively and negatively.
c. It seems to carry the idea of "respect" and "submission" based on the "heavy" crown worn by the king.

3. The word used in the New Testament stresses "value.''

a. The word is TIMAO, and means "to prize," or "to fix a value on."
b. The word is consistently used for the Fifth Commandment (Matthew 15:4; Ephesians 6:2, etc).

B. We are to honor our Father and Mother through fear.

1. This qualification is stated in Leviticus 19:3.

2. This concept is explained in Hebrews 12:9-11.

C. We are to honor our Father and Mother through obedience.

1. Obedience is "right" for children (Ephesians 6:1-3).

2. Obedience is "well pleasing" to the Lord (Colossians 3:20).

3. Obedience is an "ornament of grace" for children (Proverbs 1:8-9).

4. Obedience will give "favor and good under standing" with God and men (Proverbs 3:1-4).

5. Obedience is not an automatic character (Proverbs 7:1-4; 2:1-9).

D. We are to honor our Father and Mother through financial help.

1. We must not "plunder" our parents (Proverbs 28:24).

2. We must not refuse to help our parents (Matthew 15:4-6; 1 Timothy 5:8).

II. The Fifth Commandment has several specific restrictions.

A. We are not to curse our parents (Exodus 21:17).

1. This word means to "make light of," or "to trifle with."

2. This was a very serious offense (Leviticus 20:9; Proverbs 20:20).

3. This involves even the absence of blessing (Proverbs 30:11).

B. We are not to mock our parents.

1. Proverbs 30:17 forbids laughing at in derision.

2. Deuteronomy 27:16 forbids scorning or making fun of.

C. We are not to be rough or crude to our parents.

1. Proverbs 19:26 describes two conditions to avoid.

a. "Wasting" is being "burly" or injurious.
b. "Chasing away" carries the idea of causing flight through fear.

2. Deuteronomy 21:18-21 shows how serious an offense is.

D. We are not to be physically familiar with our parents.

1. Leviticus 18:6-15 forbids looking on their nakedness.

2. Leviticus 21:9 forbids pre-marital sex on the grounds of profaning the parents.

III. The Fifth Commandment also has an obvious extension.

A. The promised blessing of a long life is extended.

1. There is the application to all the commandments (Deuteronomy 5:16; 29-33).

2. There is the application to all the law (Deuteronomy 32:46-47).

3. There is the application to seemingly minor points of instruction (Deuteronomy 22:7; 25:25).

4. There is the application of the book of Proverbs (Proverbs 3:1-2; 13-16; 9:10-11, etc).

B. The requirement for "honor" has an extensive application (Romans 13:7; 1 Peter 2:17).

1. Honor belongs primarily and principally to God (Revelations 4:11; Exodus 20:3).

2. Honor belongs secondarily, and by delegation from God, to those whom He has dignified and made nobles in His kingdom (Proverbs 8:15; 1 Peter 2:13-14; Hebrews 13:17).

C. The title "Father" is used for different kinds of authorities.

1. It is given to kings (I Samuel 24:11; Isaiah 49:23).

2. It is given to masters/employers (2 Kings 5:13).

3. It is given to ministers of the gospel (2 Kings 2:12; Galatians 4:19; 1 Corinthians 4:15).

IV. The Fifth Commandment operates in three spheres of authority.

A. The family is the primary sphere (Genesis 1:26-28; 2:21-25; Ephesians 6:1-2).

1. The home is a training station (Genesis 18:19; Ephesians 6:4).

2. The home is to use discipline (Hebrews 12:5-11).

a. That may involve corporal punishment (Proverbs 22:15; 23:13-14).
b. That may involve verbal rebuke or exhortation (1 Thessalonians 2:11-12).
c. That may involve the withholding of reward or privilege (Genesis 49:1-26).

3. The Lord Himself submitted to this authority (Luke 2:51).

4. The child is to attend and obey his parents (Proverbs 6:20).

a. He is to reverence them (Genesis 48:12; I Kings 2:19).
b. He is to care for them (1 Timothy 5:8, 16).

5. The honor given to parents is extended to all elderly people. (Leviticus 19:32).

B. The Government is a second sphere (Genesis 9:6; Proverbs. 8:15; Romans 13:1).

1. The State is for protection against evil (Romans 13:3-4).

2. The State has authority over three major areas.

a. It has authority over life (Genesis 9:6).
b. It has authority over liberty (1 Timothy 2:1-3; Romans 13:1-2; 1 Peter 2:13-15).
c. It has authority over property (Matthew 22:21; Romans 13:6‑7).

3. The State itself is limited by the words of God (Romans 13:4; 1 Peter 2:14; Acts 5:29).

4. The Christian is to submit and honor such authority.

a. We are not to curse them (Ecclesiastes 10:20; 1 Peter 2:20).
b. We are to submit to their "ordinances" 1 Peter 2:13-14).
c. We are to render tribute, custom, and honor (Romans 13:7).
d. We are to pray for them (1 Timothy 2:1-2).

5. The Christian must also render honor to "masters."

a. We are to obey them (Colossians 3:22).
b. We are to be loyal to them (Ephesians 6:5-6).
c. We are not to retaliate (Titus 2:9-10; 1 Peter 2:18-20).

C. The Church is a third sphere (Matthew 16:18; Ephesians 3:5-10).

1. The assembly is to preserve the testimony of God's people (Ephesians 5:1-21).

a. Those who are not willing to follow that testimony are to be rebuked (1 Timothy 5:20).
b. Those who will not repent are to be expelled (Matthew 18:15-17; 1 Corinthians 5:1-2, 11-13; 6:9-11; Titus 3:10; etc).
c. Those that err are to be restored if possible (Galatians 6:1).

2. The Christian is to submit to honor and church leaders.

a. We are to obey them (Hebrews 3:17).
b. We are to honor them (1 Timothy 5:17
c. We are not to mock them (2 Chronicles 36:16).
d. We are to care for them (Galatians 6:6).
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